Your Strategy to Get Back Your Unfaithful Wife: 5 Things Not To Do

Trying to get back your unfaithful wife can be one of the most stressful experiences you'll ever face. When you discover that your wife cheating, your response will likely be very emotional - and why wouldn't it be? Let's face it, you feel as though you've been completely betrayed. you might even feel as if you have no worth any longer. And it probably seems like you've wasted years or even decades working to be a good husband. And for what?

Though it's painful to discover you have an unfaithful wife... It's better to develop a plan, rather than simply acting on emotion. Without a strategy, you're just wasting energy... and you're just going to end up feeling worse about your marriage and yourself.

Here are 5 things you shouldn't do when working to get back your unfaithful wife:

1) Don't act like the affair isn't happening. If you do, you're essentially giving your wife permission to cheat. It also allows your emotions to fester inside of you - you can pretend the affair doesn't exist, but deep inside, you know it does. Sooner or later, you will have to discuss the affair with your spouse. It's a good idea to find out how to approach it, though, so the conversation doesn't just turn into a huge blow up - one good resource for learning how to effectively talk about an affair is a course called Save the Marriage.

2) Don't enter into a confrontation without proof and purpose. Getting into a conversation with your cheating spouse without proof is just asking for trouble. Proof doesn't have to mean it's over - it just means there's no room to weasel out of the discussion. Also, make sure your purpose is clear. If you want to rebuild the marriage, make that decision before you ever say a word about the affair. That way, your conversation will more naturally lead to that outcome.

3) Don't focus your energy on the other man. Yes, it takes two to tango, but the other man isn't your concern right now. Your wife is. Calling, following, or even thinking about the other man is a waste of energy. Your thoughts and actions must be on getting your wife to end the affair, and restoring the relationship. That's a big enough challenge without worrying about the other man.

4) Don't walk out on your wife, or throw her out of the house. Putting distance between you and your spouse is one of the worst things you can do when working to get back your unfaithful wife. She needs to know that you're not going away, and that your marriage can't just be swept under the rug. Staying with your spouse gives you the proximity you need to change things and restore your marriage - even if she isn't ready to end the affair yet.

5) Don't broadcast the affair to the entire world. Sure, you need a close friend to confide in, but don't tell all of your friends and family members about your cheating wife. The objective is to end the affair and restore your marriage... and you don't want everyone treating you differently after everything is finally resolved. Telling everyone also makes friends want to "fix you up" with someone else to get your mind off the affair... ultimately, that will do nothing but complicate the situation.

These tips will help make it far easier to get back your unfaithful wife, and will increase your chances of restoring your marriage. The key is having a plan, and sticking to it. You can rebuild your marriage!